Something in your relationship isn't working, and you can't see your way through it yet. I can help.
I coach people through the hardest relational transitions: the decision to leave or stay, the divorce itself, and the long path of co-parenting your kids with someone you might struggle to talk to right now.
Together, we build the structure to go through it, guiding you to a way of living and operating that is aligned with your truth and values.
Making challenging decisions
Should I stay or should I go? Should I pivot? Why am I so conflicted when part of me already seems to know? Some decisions do not break loose with another pro-and-con list. The conflict is internal, and a list cannot reach it. We find the pattern behind it, empowering you with choice.
Co-Parenting Strategy & Coaching
The marriage ended. The parenting did not. I help you build a workable relationship with your ex, define and hold your boundaries, and keep your kids out of the middle. The more you think about this before your divorce is finalized, the simpler it will be to co-parent after.
Why I Do This Work
I know what it feels like to sense that something is off and not know what to do about it. I've been there, more than once, and in more than one area of my life.
My first marriage ended. I did a complete pivot of my career. Twice. There was conflict within my family that needed to be worked through. And at some point, I noticed that all of it had the same shape underneath, the same hidden patterns running across every domain: in relationships, at work, and inside our heads.
Going through all those changes was not an easy path, but it was worth it. My marriage evolved into one of the closest friendships I have. We both found partners who are a much better fit for us. Our kids gained siblings. My career became the work I was always moving toward without knowing it.
It didn't feel like it during the turbulent times, but my life reorganized itself into something I couldn't even dream about. I have a large, happy family, a career that doesn't even feel like work, and the confidence to move through any challenges that come up ahead.
My Method: Exhale–Explore–Engage®
1
Exhale
Before anything else, we pause. We start with a breath, a long exhale, a genuine interruption of whatever has been running on loop. With the breath, we create space to notice. You can't see a pattern clearly from the inside.
2
Explore
With space comes curiosity. We look at what's actually driving the situation — the values underneath the conflict, the truth underneath the reaction, the need that's been buried under years of managing everyone else's feelings.
3
Engage
This is where we flip the script. With clarity about what's actually true, you stop reacting from the pattern and start choosing from your truth. That's a bigger shift than it sounds. Most people have never done it.